Most of us who are in this lifestyle know that when there is a punishment that both the giver and receiver enjoy, it is actually not a punishment at all. An example of this is top loving to give her bottom a flogging. The bottom loving and anticipating the flogging. So, this is where the word funishment is coined.
I love giving funishments and even when my funishments can get truly sadistic at times, they are not for correctional purposes and b wants them. He wants to take them for me because he knows I enjoy it. Depending on the activity, he also gets a certain thrill out of it too. The pains or other sensations given and received comes from a good place in both of us.
Then there are punishments. Maybe this makes me a bad Master but I don’t like giving *real* punishments. I will give them if need be. I don’t expect there not to be any corrections or discipline needed ever. I know if I don’t give them, b will think he can get away with anything. He has also told me, if I do not correct him, it appears I’m not caring, not paying attention to him. I understand what he means. Still, he does so well by me, I don’t see this as an often occurrence.
It has been a little over a year now that I’ve had b. So far, there have been two punishments. The last time was harsher than the first. It was a punishment for something rather important. I admit, there were mixed feelings. For me, I was angry and disappointed ( in him). I was also uncomfortable giving a harsh punishment while at the same time knowing this was the right thing to do. It was important. Maybe now any other time may not feel as uncomfortable. From his side of things, I can’t speak for b, but I believe he had a mix of feelings when this was done as well.
Both funishment and punishment are parts of what an S/m are about. Funishment I’m so on it. Punishment, I’m still on a learning curve with. I know corrections will be needed. We both understand that. I love my b. He loves to serve me. He serves me well. I am able to do many deliciously sadistic things to him. I couldn’t ask for a better slave.
I’ve not come across the term “funishments” before, but it fits perfectly. It is quite obvious to my Domme when my ass needs some attention and if she feels like it, she will spank or whip me, but we’ll both enjoy – it will be for our mutual pleasure. And because i’m hers and she has the right to, she can hurt me too at any time, just because she wants to. Whether it be a severe whipping or a raping, my role is to accept it and let her have her enjoyment of hurting me. As for punishments, I’ve only had a couple – I usually rely on my tried and tested tactic of being humorously mischievous yet crucially, lovably forgiveable.